It’s not my fault!

[DEAR DIARY: I ENCOUNERED PERFECT BEINGS TODAY]

It’s not my fault! It’s not the most common phrase, but it is the most common concept for the way that too many people act. I guess if people were to even utter those words it might make then think about what they are actually saying. Today’s society seems to be spawning an ever increasing amount of people that simply can do no wrong. They have gone way past the stage if saying… “It’s not my fault”…  and elevated themselves to a position of “perfection”. They can not conceive that they could be wrong, or done something to put them into the position where they don’t get what they expected. They neglect to do something (plan ahead), don’t have the outcome they expected… and then want to blame anyone or everyone for their own nearsightedness or negligence. They can’t be to blame, they are “perfect” and never wrong. I must bow to their status of being “perfect”… and that everyone else is to blame for anything negative in their life… and yes, I’m being totally sarcastic.

Now there’s two ways to look at this. One, you are like me and realize that there is no one that is perfect, and we all make mistakes, forget things, or have a dumb moment where we do something stupid… but we can see that the fault lies in us, and not others. Or Two, you have in some degree, have a “Perfection Complex” that makes you feel that you are never wrong and someone else is always to blame for your lot in life and negative situation that you find yourself in. The “Perfection Complex” seems to be a self feeding ever growing attitude that builds on it’s self until it reaches a god like status… “I am right and everyone else is wrong”. If you find yourself heading down this path… Stop… really think about it… accept the fact that you as well as all your family, friends, and everyone else is only human… we all makes mistakes, and we all should accept responsibility for their own actions. If you can’t do this you will face a lifetime of aggravation… caused by your own perfection issues and face the rejection of others that you unjustly blame… Of course, if you are so far gone down this path and perceive yourself as “perfect”… well, you won’t see this anyway, and face a lifetime of disappointment and aggravation at your own hands. Which in some small part… okay, a very large part, gives the rest of us great relief to know that you make your own life miserable, every moment of every day.

We met a lot of people working here at the campground and seen a lot of situations, and heard or met too many people that have “Perfection Issues”. Here’s a few that seem to always come up. Depending which side of the issue you see as being “right” may indicate what like of person you are.

All the following statements conclude that the management, staff, policies and rules are unfair, and the failure for them, as customers, getting what they want, means that everyone is rude, unprofessional, and uncaring as to their needs or wants… regardless of the situation (after all, they pay our wages)… and they should be above any rules, policies, and should always… yes, always… get what they want… because they are right… regardless of anyone else, customer or staff… and they should be an exception… put above all else and others.

• I didn’t get the cabin or site I wanted. [They failed to book early enough to get what they wanted]
• All the golf carts were rented before I got here. [They failed to read notices and book early]
• The safety rules about campfires should apply to me. [They are told, plus signs, and are no exception]
• The safety rules for golf carts shouldn’t apply to me. [No, you can drive reckless and endanger others]
• The safety rules at the pool shouldn’t apply to me. [It’s for you kids safety and others]
• Why can’t you start the movie over again, I’m only 20 minutes late. [We have a schedule for everyone’s benefit]
• Why do I have to follow a schedule. [You don’t… but you will miss out on things]
• A light bulb burnt out in my cabin, I want a discount. [The something for free mentality]
• The rain ruined my weekend, I want a refund. [Mother nature]
• I didn’t sign up early, why can’t I still participate. [sorry, ya missed it, gotta read the schedule]
• Why are there so many rules. [Safety and so things run smoothly]
• Why are you harassing me about everything. [repeated reminders for not following the rules for safety]
• I didn’t know this wasn’t allowed. [yes you do in reality… broke the rules and got caught]
• Why do I have to wear an armband. [So we know you belong here… everyone where’s a band]
• Why can’t I have another chance [as in… above the two or three you’ve already gotten and did not heed]
• Why are you taking my golf cart [severe safety violations, of which you were informed]
• Why are you charging me for damage to the golf cart. [because you are responsible for your own negligence]
• Quite time shouldn’t apply to us. [Sorry, yes it does, as a consideration to everyone else]
• We paid a lot of money to be here. [but it doesn’t change the safety rules or change policy]
• I pay your salary, you should do what I want. [Sorry, it doesn’t work that way… rules, policy, schedules]

The list could go on and on… but I’m sure everyone gets the picture.  

This may be a way of life for some of the rich and famous. Money, as in super rich, buys anything including the indulgence of god like perfection issues. It buys the bow down, kiss my feet, cater to my every whim attitude. $39 a night in a campground… well… they have the wrong attitude, not to mention checkbook, to expect that the world is going to bow at their feet.

Well, that’s my little bit of “emotional release” to “slough off” the ill effects of those that perceive themselves with god like grandeur. And yes, I find great comfort that they make for themselves, a life of misery and aggravation. So if you are among the 90 some percent that accepts responsibility for your own actions… this too may bring a bit of comfort to you. If you are among the 10 percent or so… then you justifiably reap what you sow…  and the rest of us have no sympathy or compassion for you. While I seldom write with the intention to offend anyone, this is one of those cases where if the shoe fits, wear it with the misery that you inflict on others… you deserve it. But in reality… if you are one of those with perfection issues, you probably would never read this… and if you did, you probably wouldn’t realize that this applied to you. But just saying all this just makes me feel better… and maybe a few of the 90%ers too.