What do you say to those that survive the loss of a lived one?
Well, thoughts and words to comfort & console just don't seem to exist. The old sayings that seem mostly cliche seem to have little worth. So, what do you say to comfort someone who has experienced the ultimate loss? Is the answer... nothing? I can not imagine my life if something happened to Shelly... I can not imagine anything that anyone could say to provide comfort. Life goes on, day by day, month by month, year by year, you embrace wonderful memories, cherished those that are part of your life, and breath in and out... looking to new memories... not to fill the void... but to recenter your life and future. I can't imagine that it actually could get any easier... so there's no words or deeds to comfort. The greatest joys shared with that special person leaves the greatest void. So with a heavy heart, each day is filled with mixed of emotions... they say it gets easier to bear. Time doesn't heal all losses, it merely enables us to learn to live again and cherish memories while reducing the emotional pain. Life goes on, hour by hour, day by day... breathe... knowing that you are in the thoughts of many... that just don't know exactly what to say to comfort you. Always wishing you the best.
The older we get, the realization become greater, that we are closer to the end than the beginning. The older we get, we see more and more of those in our lives pass away. What can be said to comfort those that lost a loved one?
Death surrounded me as a child. Three grand parents dead. Aunts and uncle's dead. Father dead. And shortly into my adult life, grandfather and mother dead. All blood family and relatives...dead. Death is no stranger... It's a cold hard fact of life. We all want to live a long life, but the longer we live, the greater the loss will be. Spouse, children, and possibly grandchildren, if you live long enough. How does one endure such losses? It's the price of living a long life. A life that by retirement, society has no ear for your voice... and you circle of friends becomes smaller and smaller until you are the last one remaining. Children and grandchildren, even great grandchildren have their busy lives. Memories stage off the reality that you are closer to the end with each passing day. The joys of a simpler life and nature make aging easier emotionally. My life from youth has been enhanced by family, but the solitary emotional self sufficient, self-reliant mentality has always been in the background. Growing old means little by little growing more lonely... simply physical manifestation of getting old. How does someone live to be 100 and endure it all?
You make the most of each day, cherish everyone is still in your life, and live day by day... taking all the joys where you can find them. Cherish memories from the past, the present, and those yet to come. Planning your tomorrow's as if the end will never happen.
Well, thoughts and words to comfort & console just don't seem to exist. The old sayings that seem mostly cliche seem to have little worth. So, what do you say to comfort someone who has experienced the ultimate loss? Is the answer... nothing? I can not imagine my life if something happened to Shelly... I can not imagine anything that anyone could say to provide comfort. Life goes on, day by day, month by month, year by year, you embrace wonderful memories, cherished those that are part of your life, and breath in and out... looking to new memories... not to fill the void... but to recenter your life and future. I can't imagine that it actually could get any easier... so there's no words or deeds to comfort. The greatest joys shared with that special person leaves the greatest void. So with a heavy heart, each day is filled with mixed of emotions... they say it gets easier to bear. Time doesn't heal all losses, it merely enables us to learn to live again and cherish memories while reducing the emotional pain. Life goes on, hour by hour, day by day... breathe... knowing that you are in the thoughts of many... that just don't know exactly what to say to comfort you. Always wishing you the best.
The older we get, the realization become greater, that we are closer to the end than the beginning. The older we get, we see more and more of those in our lives pass away. What can be said to comfort those that lost a loved one?
Death surrounded me as a child. Three grand parents dead. Aunts and uncle's dead. Father dead. And shortly into my adult life, grandfather and mother dead. All blood family and relatives...dead. Death is no stranger... It's a cold hard fact of life. We all want to live a long life, but the longer we live, the greater the loss will be. Spouse, children, and possibly grandchildren, if you live long enough. How does one endure such losses? It's the price of living a long life. A life that by retirement, society has no ear for your voice... and you circle of friends becomes smaller and smaller until you are the last one remaining. Children and grandchildren, even great grandchildren have their busy lives. Memories stage off the reality that you are closer to the end with each passing day. The joys of a simpler life and nature make aging easier emotionally. My life from youth has been enhanced by family, but the solitary emotional self sufficient, self-reliant mentality has always been in the background. Growing old means little by little growing more lonely... simply physical manifestation of getting old. How does someone live to be 100 and endure it all?
You make the most of each day, cherish everyone is still in your life, and live day by day... taking all the joys where you can find them. Cherish memories from the past, the present, and those yet to come. Planning your tomorrow's as if the end will never happen.
