Seriously? …
Wow… He might be right…
I did not think it meant what it really means.
Clearly… Inconceivable!
In any event…
Being too serious about things depends on a few things, or at least ultimately two things. How I meant it, or how I think I meant it… and how you perceive it in it’s meaning, or at least how I think you’ll perceive it’s meaning. Ya see, the entire thing gets more and more complicated when it really should be simple. In today’s world, everything is over complicated, over thought, over analyzed, and rationalized to arrive at all the possible conclusions to any given situation. In fact, many things are simply just what they are… very simple things… they should be kept simple! Uncomplicated… plain and simple.
Perception… now that’s another topic all together. What I meant, and what you think I meant usually is not the same thing. So your reaction to my actions, as you perceive it, may be contrary to my intended action, and thus my reaction to you is something less them you would expect. Thus perpetuating a greater misunderstanding between us which will in no doubt inevitably lead to a conflict that will escalate higher and higher until war breaks out and all hope of common ground is gone forever. And the battle of wits will begin. All I have to do is divine what I know about you to derive upon a course of action. You will become irrational, I will defend the process of logical thought and reasoning, and the battle of wills will ensue. This is truly becoming a exchange of wits that can only conclude in a victory for the most dizzying intellect. Of course, once we go down this path, the most important issue is to not only win… but let the other person think that they to have won… giving them a false sense of satisfaction.
Clearly… throw in a bit of sarcasm, irrational behavior, and hostile aggression, and we will be two steps from pushing the button to unleash nuclear Armageddon. Has this gotten too serious for you? Gotten too far out of hand? Inconceivable!!??
Sometimes ya just need to keep it simply…. plain and simple. Don’t be coy… just say what you want in simple terms. Don’t try to be artsy fartsy nice… it only leads to misunderstandings… just say it simply.
Example: “I need some space”. Wrong, wrong, wrong! I don’t want you to comfort or console me. Ya just need to be clear… but you can still be polite… “please… just get away from me”… ( and if they have a puzzled look on their face)… “before I feel the need to hit you”. Plain and simple. But even this may be misunderstood. I didn’t say I was going to hit you… I said before I feel the need to hit you. I wouldn’t really do it ( I don’t think )… I might dream of doing it… want to do it… visualize doing it… and derive emotional satisfaction from thinking of doing it… but wouldn’t really do it… probably. See how things can get out of hand? Inconceivable!! Another example: “I need some quiet time” … it’s simply a round about way to say what you wish you want. Clearly this will not get the same effect and results as keeping it simple. “I want you to stop speaking… now… Please shut up”! See, clear and direct. You can still keep the thinking I’d like to hit you part… but perhaps it’s better not to say it… as least not right away.
All of this… seriously? Well, to quote Mr. Gump… “seriously is a seriously does”. Well… he would have said it if he had thought of it. But he lived his life without being too serious about things… plain and simple!
I could go on and on into this bit of falderal, but that might be too redundant… or would it? Are you still reading? … good. Here’s the final analysis:
In any event… If I appear to be too serious, Please do not think it’s an argument to convince you to my way of thinking. It could merely be my way to let off a little steam about something… so I can let to go… and get by it. You may want to do the same in response… but please, just let it go. You probably will have your own thoughts on the subject that would be completely different from mine. And that’s okay… it doesn’t bother me. And they would clearly be of no concern to me if you were not to mention them at all to me. See… simple. We can each have our own views without trying to convince each other who is right and who is wrong. So if you should ever feel that I am trying to impose my thoughts, beliefs, and convictions upon you (which I would never do) … even if you are wrong… (just kidding about the you being wrong thing… smiling to myself)… just ask yourself if you are taking any topic way too serious. Don’t take offence or go all defensive, and be too serious. Life is to short… and getting shorter by the year. Sometimes sooner… ya never know.
One final thought. Over the top serious discussions are much like a chess match. Moves, counter moves, sacrifice a pawn or two, let someone think they are gaining the upper hand, trade lesser pieces for more valuable, lead them into a trap… check… checkmate. Someone wins, someone looses. End of the story? … nope… in reality… nobody wins ( or do I just want you to think that? … Idoeno ). Draw your own conclusions.
This should clearly make everything easier.
Don’t you feel better?
And… have a better understanding of things?
Well… I feel better!
Don’t you feel better?
And… have a better understanding of things?
Well… I feel better!
Okay… As you wish… I’ll stop here.
So… that’s all I have to say about that!
Congratulations for reading this to the end.
( I know… ya just couldn’t help yourself )
